Degrading banter not only emanates from the locker room but can take place in any environment. such as at school or the workplace.
Here are a few helpful tips on how to deflate crude remarks:
- Speak up. Speak up immediately and confront the disrespectful behavior if you are a witness to it. If you choose not to, it may signal that you support these kinds of messages. A short yet firm retort such as “dude, that’s not cool," can get your point across and shut down rude conversations.
- Have a private chat. Taking the person or people aside to have a personal conversation can be a good way to let them know that you are not comfortable with their remarks. If you want to go a step further, talk about women in your life who have experienced abuse and why you feel their comments are harmful to all women.
- Take responsibility. If you’re perhaps guilty of engaging in previous indecent discussions, then take responsibility for what you’ve said and why you no longer condone this type of behavior. Finding your voice can be empowering and sets you up to be a strong role model for others to do the same.
- Report it. If the inappropriate banter continues even after you asked the person to stop, then it may be time to take a trip to HR if it’s happening at the office or letting a teacher or counselor know if it’s happening at school. This may be a hard thing to do, but typically this is an effective way to ensure that these types of demoralizing conversations cease.