Do you have an emotional vampire sucking the life out of you?
Often when we think of vampires, we think of frightful creatures with protruding fangs or even sexy vampires who shimmer in the sunlight. But what is an emotional vampire?
An emotional vampire is a person who drains the emotional energy out of you, which leaves you feeling exhausted or worse after you see them. They lurk as needy relatives, workplace bullies or complain-loving friends. They can make us feel overwhelmed, depressed, angry or fatigued.
People who are emotional vampires may do things like:
Turn the topic of conversation to themselves no matter what you are talking about
Redirect attention to themselves if the focus isn’t on them
Persistently criticize everything and complain constantly
Believe their needs are more important than others' needs
Feel the need to endlessly talk
Seek drama and often love to gossip
Take no responsibility for their behavior
Need incessant validation
Emit negativity that bring others down
Garlic around your neck won’t defend you, but here are some ways to protect yourself from the emotional vampires in your life:
Set clear boundaries with them. Do not allow them to trample on your feelings
Control your emotions by remaining calm. Do not become reactive to their criticism
Become more assertive by demanding more solutions rather than complaints from them
Kill them with kindness. It sucks the power from their pessimism
Spend time with uplifting people who energize you
Let go of the relationship or decrease the time you spend with them if they do not change their discouraging ways
So become an emotional vampire slayer by not allowing the energy of these negative people to affect you. Focus on your positive energy and you will find that is your best defense against their life-sucking behaviors.